Journey To Gentle Blog
Bi-weekly blog posts looking at some of the ideas of mainstream parenting and sharing gentle parenting techniques
Why Doesn’t Gentle Parenting Use Consequences?
There are many different kinds of consequences. A person does not need to suffer through consequences or be forced to perform accountability to learn from their actions. In fact, people learn better when they feel safe, heard, and connected not with they are shamed, fearful, and focused on self-preservation. In Gentle Parenting, our goal is to help a child feel safe and connected because this allows us the space to teach, guide, and collaborate.
What is Connection Anyway?
Connection is synonymous with attention. As a social Species connection is important to our mental and physical well-being and development. Therefore Attention is not a want (like a toy), it is an absolute need(Like food)
What Is Unschooling?
Unschooling is this radical idea that children should be in charge of their education. Akilah makes an important distinction for me. Many people only consider unschooling as a learning alternative to traditional school whereas Akilah considers it a lifestyle.
Get Grounded
Practice Make Progress
Recently on this journey to being a more gentle parent I've realized that I've forgotten to do one very important thing and that is practice! Practice with my kids these new skills they are picking up. In moments of panic, kids may do the first thing that comes to mind. In our case currently, that means hitting. While I'm doing the best I can when I see these moments building, during, and then immediately after them, there isn't much in-between that I'm doing to help with skill-building.
Time out vs Time In
Working on Your Mind Set
One of the biggest parts of gentle parenting is a shift in mindset. Where our is at mind greatly determines how we view our children, ourselves, and the course of action we choose to take(though this isn't the only factor). Many of us that choose gentle parenting were not parented this way ourselves.
What Is Gentle Parenting?
Gentle parenting is a relationship based parenting style that seeks to discipline (teach) in a way that strengthens the relationship between parent and child. This parenting style seeks to share in the power through collaborative problem solving.